Chemistry and Expectations:- This is an important part of the first meeting. You both know you have mental chemistry, this is to find out if you have the physical chemistry. It’s best to keep an open mind for first meetings, don’t focus on it being everything you’ve dreamed off. And don’t focus on it being a total failure ether. It could be ether, or even a little bit of both. So always be prepared for anything. Some online couples are quite nervous when they first meet, they find it hard to relax around their loved one. They need time to get used to each other, and feel comfortable around each other first. This feeling will soon pass when you’ve generally been talking for a while and gotten used to each others mannerisms. Although many online couples including myself feel the total opposite and are totally comfortable with each other on the first meeting. Clayton and I were very much at ease with each other, and fell into each others arms as soon as we met. I think it just boils down to the person and the couple itself, every couple and online relationship is different.

Meet in a public place:- Always agree to meet in a public place, obviously if your travelling to a different country an airport is the most public place you can get. But if your only a few hrs from each other, maybe you can arrange to meet at a coffee shop or a local park.

Tell friends and relatives:- Always tell your friends and relatives where your going and where you’ll be staying. Always write the information down for them to know exactly where your going.

Take a friend or relative:- I advise if your only a few hours away from each other, then you should take a friend or relative with you to meet this person. It’s always safer to go with someone than go alone. Although this can’t always be the case for some online couples, especially if you both live in two separate countries. When I started to arrange to meet Clayton, my mother actually started to think that maybe she should come along with me for backup. But we both decided, if all went well with Clayton and I then my mother would kind of be a third wheel in the meeting, so we decided I would go alone.

First meeting Gifts:- This is always a nice thought and a great ice breaker for the first meeting. If you want some ideas for first meeting gifts check out Loving you gifts I think it’s a good idea to get something personal and in relevance to your relationship. I bought Clayton a cuddly “Bagpuss” to go on his car window. When we used the web cam in my mornings, which with the 8hr time difference made it evening with him. So when he yawned over the cam it reminded me of Bagpuss hence the Bagpuss cuddly toy. I also bought him some Welsh Flag underpants for a joke. I would advise you not to get something quite as personal as that, for the first meeting unless you know the persons personality quite well. Clayton was a good old romantic and got me a single red rose. 

Anxiety:- It’s only natural to be nervous and excited on the first meeting. It’s a good idea to take things slowly, until you feel comfortable and at ease with each other. I’m sure your loved one will be feeling exactly the same way as you. So just take it easy and get comfortable with each other.

Accommodation:- Where will you stay? I advise you to stay in a hotel for the first few nights of the first meeting. Until you know that the meeting is going as well as you hoped. Sometimes staying in a hotel doesn’t always go to plan though. I intended to stay in hotel, but seeming I was a student and had only a part time job. I had very little money, I only just had enough for the plane ticket. Clayton offered for me to stay at his parents house. He had talked this over with his parents first and they agreed that I could use the spare bedroom to stay for the 2wks I was there. If you and your loved one arrange this, then I’d advise you to have some sort of backup plan. Maybe a reservation at the local hotel, just in case.

Have fun:- Just remember your also there to have fun and to be with a person who you cherish with their friendship. So just be yourself and have a good time. Arrange fun trips you and your online love can do during your stay. Plan days out, Clayton had booked a dinner cruise to Victoria Canada when we planned our first meeting although he had other plans seeming thats where he proposed to me. He also took me to the Northwest Country fair, which was fun. I had bought a whole country girl outfit just to go funny huh! <!--end content here --> </p></td> </tr> </table> </BODY> </HTML>